Three out of four of my children have learning disabilities or anxiety. They seem to go together. My oldest, Abby, has severe anxiety, depression, and also, dyslexia. Both boys have issues with anxiety. Eli is almost traumatized to go to school because he is afraid he’ll accidentally do something wrong and get into trouble. Isaiah has OCD. He gets frustrated easily and ends up causing a lot of skirmishes over things that aren’t just right in his opinion. He is also ADHD and dyslexic. All of these issues cause a lot of stress and anxiety for everyone involved with their education and development as a child of God.
Unfortunately, that amount of anxiety comes straight from me. I feel guilty, sometimes. I know how they feel. I used to hide it (or at least I thought I did) but actually I was just just stuffing in inside until It exploded in my face.
But what does that look like? What is wrong with me? Anxiety, what have you done to me?
First of all, my anxiety overlaps with whats called Conversion Disorder. Conversion Disorder is a neurological symptom that can only be explained by a specific psychological trigger and causes significant distress to the patient. I’ve had tics in my neck, muscle spasms, seizures, feeling faint, and losing muscle tone and control.
Similar to conversion disorder, Cyclic Vomiting Syndrome is caused by anxiety. I would be so excited to go to a birthday party. I would be perfectly healthy through the party. However, the next morning I would wake up non stop puking. It changed as I got older. I quit throwing up so much and had many an upset stomach. Then as an adult, it attacked me much harder. I now also had intense abdominal pain. I would cry out to God to just kill me because the pain was so awful. The throwing up was continuous. I would get a migraine, too. It was so awful that Mike had to call an ambulance on numerous occasions. Finally, I was actually diagnosed with the Cyclic Vomiting Syndrome. Medicine helped some but when I got put on Klonopin for psychological reasons, the attacks are all but nonexistent. Finally some reprieve!
Social Anxiety follows me everywhere I go. The problem is that I love people, love spending time with my friends, and would rather be around other people than alone. That’s a little bit of a problem for someone with social phobia. Nothing more than talking to a friend, or especially a group of friends, will start up the panic – cotton mouth, can’t breath, shaking, stomach ache, paranoia, desire to escape or disappear. My brain says one thing but my body does another. These attacks are usually from social situations but I also have alot of general anxiety ……. like being late, kids being sick or a TV stand falling over.